Finding a Path to Emotional Wellness

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Dear Ruthie,

Maybe it’s about getting older, but lately I’ve been suffering from extraordinary feelings of loneliness. The “attacks”, as I call them, are almost crippling by nature. I’ve had feelings of loneliness in the past, as I assume most, but recently these feelings have been overwhelming. They’re almost like a panic attack, if you will. Is that because of age or the upcoming holidays or something more serious? I would love to hear your thoughts.

Thank you for considering

Lonely Joe

Dear joe,

I wish I could hug you now, but I can’t. First of all, we don’t communicate personally. and secondly, Covid! (Damn it, pandemic!) Instead, let’s both take a deep breath and talk a little about it.

While everyone experiences bouts of loneliness, and the holidays are sure to make many feel depressed, I don’t think most of these stints are debilitating or similar to panic attacks. Also, don’t try to blame your age for it. Indeed, do not blame anything now. Instead, justify your feelings as real, important, and something you can learn to control.

You took a wise, brave first step to question your emotions, but now you need to take the next step and see a professional therapist. Let a doctor know how you are feeling and what you are struggling with and he or she can help you.

A professional therapist can help you determine if you are struggling with depression, anxiety, or other problems. So get in touch with someone today. I promise that through this step you will find a healing path to emotional wellbeing. You will not regret it and you will feel much better about the bright future ahead. I send you a lot of love, friendship and virtual hugs, dear Joe.

Ruthie’s social calendar

November 20 – Winter wonders drive through the Boerner Botanical Gardens (9400 Boerner Drive, Hales Corners): See all the Christmas lights your little heart can handle. The breathtaking light show, open through January 3rd at 5 p.m., promises to bring out the kid in even the greatest Grinch. Visit for tickets that come in a range of prices and options depending on the truckload.

November 21st – Saturday night Live on This Is It (418 E. Wells St.): Check out the Becky Essence Hall in town as they host this popular night of drag, dance, and debauchery! The fun starts at 10:30 p.m. when Becky’s cast takes the stage, but the bar’s legendary drink specials, friendly staff, and carefree atmosphere are in the spotlight all night.

November 24th – afternoon tea at the Pfister Hotel {424 E. Wisconsin Ave.): Mix up the work week when you join this leisurely afternoon at Blu, the posh restaurant up in the Pfister. Enjoy traditional sandwiches and pastries while your own tea butler mixes a number of sippers at your table, offering expertise behind each creation. Reservations are required so call 44-935-5950 to secure your spot. The tables are available from 12 noon to 2.30 p.m.

November 25 – FAB Older Adult Virtual Support Group: The Milwaukee LGBT Community Center team offers this online meeting for people over 50. Discuss your experiences, make new friends, and get involved in the community when you join the group from 6:00 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. Just go to this link to enjoy this free meeting.

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